How to Use a Finger Vibrator: Sexpert Tips & Techniques

Last Updated on February 6, 2024

Finger vibrators are one of the most playful and fun sex toy for couples suitable for any erogenous zone including the clitoris, vagina, nipples, perineum, scrotum, and anywhere else you think feels good!

Try a finger vibrator toy, the most discreet and friendly type of sexual enhancer that is non-phallic, nondescript and has multiple ways to use. They're also inexpensive for people wanting sex toys on the cheap.

The mini fingertip vibrator is my best recommendation for partners seeking a small clit toy to bring into the bedroom. Simply stated, finger dildos keep things interesting in the bedroom.

There are a few minor differences in finger sex toy design, but the steps on how to use a finger vibrator for women can be applied to all types from nubby, non-vibrating sleeves to vibrating fingertip bullet shaped clit toys. In my video demos, I used the same item simply for consistency, but you can follow the same steps regardless of the item you've purchased.

Unlike most dildos where there is really only 1 way to use them, couples who try a finger vibrator toy have multiple options for sexual arousal and foreplay. It can even be incorporated into sexual intercourse for better clitoral stimulation. Couples love 'em as nipple stimulators, not just for the clitoris, but a fun sex toy for any erogenous zone on the body too.

These tiny and hands free sex toys for the clit are so small and have such a low profile that you can use them in virtually any position including the standard missionary, to the more adventurous doggie style.

Learn more about features of a the best fingering vibrators here along with a review and comparison of each of my personal favorite fingering dildos & sex toys.

Sure you can rub the clitoris with your finger tip during lovemaking, but having a vibrating clit dildo attached to your hand amplifies the pleasure greatly. Simply stated, the vibration feels magical and provides a substantial boost to her orgasm.

How Does Fingertip Vibrator Work?

A fingertip vibrator enhances the pleasure of clitoral stimulation with vibration and texture. The extra stimulation increases sexual arousal during finger play, much more so than just rubbing your smooth fingertip over the clit and labia alone.

Most sex toys toys for fingering are textured and/or padded for added sensations. The rubbing helps the vagina feel more relaxed, so fingering toys are most often used before penetrative sex toy “warm up” and make penetration more comfortable and enjoyable.

Why Use a Finger Vibrator?

When lovers are shopping for mini stimulators together online, the finger vibrator category is often the last section viewed, so by the time the pair is ready to head to the checkout, the shopping cart is full and the shopping budget is maxed. In my opinion, that's a darn shame!

Even though fingertip vibrators are cheap, especially for toys that are wireless & waterproof, they're not that popular. I'm here to highlight this tiny fingering toy with big erotic potential so before we continue on, I'll mention some advantages that finger dildos have for couples to enhance their intimate life.

Benefits of Fingering Sex Toys

• The motor is extremely quiet compared to other clitoral vibrators.
• Fingering toys do not look like a blatant adult toy, they are discreet.
• The small size is easy to hide in your bedside table.
• Buzzing stimulation enhances fingering foreplay.
• Finger play adds excitement to a boring love life.
• Discreet way to enhance pleasure with sex novelties for couples.
• Helps women with vaginal dryness produce natural lubrication.
• Discreet styling is easy to introduce to a hesitant first timer.
• Non-intrusive, can be incorporated into your regular foreplay routine.
• Makes an excellent nipple simulator for both men & women.
• Can be used for male scrotum & female perineum stimulation.
• Gentle vibration is comfortable for seniors & women with sensitive clits.

Finger Vibrator Video Tutorial

There are many variations to use a finger dildo. You don't need to follow the same repetitive series of steps every time. Among all the different types of sex toy instructions I've written, this one has the most options so a couple can tailor their methods to their own unique personal desires. It's one of the most versatile sexual enhancer for couples and creative minds can be free to invent their own ways to tease & tickle their lover.

How to Use a Finger Vibrator

I'll start with the basic steps that all beginners ask about tips and techniques on how to use a finger vibrator for sexual arousal. Look the photo collection of my finger vibrator instructions listing steps 1-4. This method is the most basic and simple way to get the engine revved up for sex:

1. Lay it over the clitoral hood and position the curved tip over the vaginal entry.
2. Lift up your hand and lightly push the curved tip into the vagina.
3. Remove the tip from the vagina and maintain pressure while you slide it to the perineum.
4. Press it into the perineum and insert your thumb into the vagina.
5. In a rocking motion, slide it back up to the clit and repeat again.
6. Maintain a sensual, slow rhythm while repeating this process numerous times.

Mayla's Favorite Finger Vibrator Technique:

This creative method stimulates a woman's two most powerful erogenous zones: The clitoris and G Spot. With this magic technique, the clitoris gets pinched between the thumb and the item. The combination of pressure from the thumb on the front and the buzzing originating from the solid motor on the back creates powerful sexual arousal.

1. Insert the wearing digit and the dildo into the vagina until you can line up the clitoris with the surface of the toy.
2. Pinch the clitoral hood with the thumb against the toy.
3. Tilt your arm downwards and rock your hand upward in order to make contact with the G Spot.
4. Massage the G Spot for 30 seconds while keeping the thumb on top of the clit.
5. Rock the arm & hand back upwards to position 1 and repeat the process numerous times with a slow, uninterrupted rhythm.
6. Alternate addition: Move the thumb in a circular motion to massage the clitoris while rocking the hand back and forth.

Using a Finger Vibrator During Penetrative Sex

The woman wears the device herself during intercourse and reaches down below to touch her clitoris. For the biggest bang factor, press the curved tip directly into the clitoral hood and leave it there, exactly as shown in the photo demonstration.

If you're doing missionary position and there is limited space between you and your partner's body, then hold your hand flush with your pubic bone and let the interior curve surround the clitoris. You can also push it lower and the the curve rest in between your labia while the straight side of the device vibrates on the clit.

Women who use a clitoral stimulator during sex experience faster orgasms. It's even possible to play a game to throttle use of the clit stimulator to time the orgasm to begin at the same moment as the partner. This is a fun goal that spices up the sex life when things are getting a little dull. Try it!

Using a Finger Sex Toy for Clit Stimulation

Finger vibrators do not need to be used “from the top down”. Couples enjoy close-up foreplay while using the device “from the bottom up”. These methods are more playful and interactive since the wearer is in a better ergonomic position to use multiple fingers at once.

3 best positions to enhance sexual enjoyment:

1. The Wrapper

In this position, the thumb is inserted into the vagina. When a woman is manually stimulated with a thumb, it feels more like a plug since it can't go as deep as a digit can. It's extremely arousing and best described as a “teasing” sensation. The extra girth also feels nice!

The entire length of the device rests over her clitoral hood and reaches all the way up to the pubic bone. The vibration coverage is superior compared to all other positions. It can even rival her favorite vibrator. This method works best for a woman with a low libido, the combination of “thumbwork” plus extended vibration will get her mind in the mood for sex in no time at all!

2. The Poker

This is an excellent position for first timers. Once she accepted the idea of manual stimulation with the aid of a dildo, the addition of clitoral touching is a real erotic delight. Full insertion is not comparable to the use of any other type of dildo. It's shallow and far thinner than any other adult item that can be used vaginally.

This is a popular position for senior couples too since it is least intrusive yet has a powerful arousing effect. You can move the hand in & out in a thrusting motion to simulate intercourse, or rotate the hand in a circular gyrating motion. Both motions create quite the opposite sensations so I like to suggest alternating between both.

3. The Caresser

The vibrator for couples with a full erotic package! The wearer inserts both the device and the index digit into the vagina. This increases penetration girth and adds a kink factor to this otherwise tame sexual enhancer for women. The middle digit presses the clit, typically rocking up & down or scooping upwards under the hood for more direct impact, transforming this into a fully interactive fun sex toy style.

The thumb pokes, rubs & circles the perineum. If she is okay with a little anal experience, the wearer can push the thumb into the anus and rim the edge in a circular motion. If you insert the thumb into the anus all the way, move the band in rhythmic motion in time with movement of the middle & index fingers to combine all 3 erogenous zones into a one-piece mega orgasmic sensation for her.

How to Use Non-Vibrating Finger Sleeves

Nonvibrating slip on finger sleeves are nubby or ribbed rubber or jelly sleeves that enhances stimulation by adding texture to sexual finger play. It enhances sensual massage and can be used to touch and rub any erogenous zone on the body. They can even be used to soothe sore neck & back muscles, their application reaches far beyond sexual terms!

These are often used for anal sex play since it's the most sanitary way to touch your partner's anus. I think they are excellent for clitoral touching, G Spot rubbing, prostate massage and general manual foreplay wherever you decide to get your hands wander.

They are the perfect add on for women AND men, not to mention the best choice for those looking to buy a cheap sex toy. They are actually the cheapest items in our entire sex toy store. The gel surface gets super slippery when wet so pile on the lube and let the pleasure soar!

How to Use Finger Dildos Internally

Using a finger vibrator inside the vagina is one of the best couples sex toys to enjoy G Spot stimulation during foreplay. It works best when you have a low profile finger toy, the large ones may prove uncomfortable to fully insert.

Think of a finger dildo instead which is designed for vaginal penetration. When using a finger vibrator internally, push your finger forward in the same "come hither" motion as you would when stimulating or finding the G Spot.

Lube or No Lube?

I typically instruct my readers not to use lube. The explanation behind that concept is that you want the surface of the vibe to be “sticky” on the clitoris. You DO want friction when using a bullet vibrator, but NOT with a hand vibe.

Even though the general appearance of these 2 small types of female stimulators are very similar, it is not the same as a bullet at all. Your finger vibrator should be lubricated.

Unlike the bullet, this item is not kept in one place, it moves around. You slide it around, insert it into the vagina and slide it over the perineum. A slippery consistency makes it feel better. This product should not grip the skin, most of them are silicone or jelly as opposed to plastic like the bullets. Plastic can glide on the skin without lube, silicone, rubber and jelly cannot glide over the skin.