How to Use a Vibrator: Step by Step Instructions

Last Updated on February 23, 2024

Using sex toys might seem self explanatory at first, but when you shuffle under the covers you may wonder how to use a vibrator the right way. Are their certain techniques, and tips that make the orgasm stronger?

This complete Sexpert tutorial on how to use a vibrator will guide you through the various types of orgasmically awesome vibrator sex toys to make your sex life shine.

I will focus first on rabbit vibrators since these are the most complex. Next, a good bullet vibrator tutorial will teach you how to use a vibrator during partnered sex make intercourse feel better.

Should I look for the most intense & strong vibrators only? Think that sucking sensation on the clit feels good? These unique adult toys for women go far beyond your classic vibrator, some are made with targeted stimulation to increase blood flow to all your pleasure points.

Any good sex shop will have a plethora of g spot vibrators for sale, and employ a good sex educator to teach you how to use it. Ever wonder how to enjoy a rabbit, wand vibrator or how to use a rose vibrator?

For a newbie using a vibrator for the first time, this is the essential guide that will point your way to different sensations for you to explore your own body or improve pleasure during partnered sex.

How to Use a Vibrator for Internal and External Stimulation

Let's assume you have a internal & external clit vibrator (think rabbit clitoral vibrator). There are 5 different ways to use a vibrator for clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation and internal stimulation. You can choose 1 way and maintain this method the whole way through, you can alternate between 2, 3 or even sample all 5 during your session.

First we need to understand how the best vibrator for female orgasm actually works with the body. As women, we need a gradual build-up, a slow escalation of sexual stimulation that brings us to a climax. With that in mind, I would suggest that you start with step number 1 and as you feel yourself become more sexually aroused, move to technique number 2. As you approach orgasm, continue down the sequence until technique number 5.

Vibrator Tutorial & Techniques

This video tutorial shows you how to use a vibrator for the first time. Always apply lube to the top 2 or 3 inches of the vibrator and also your vagina and labia to reduce friction upon initial insertion. If you want to use a vibrator during sex, this is the best way for sexual arousal and to relax both the mind & body.

Steps 1-5 are a complex series of vibrator tutorial techniques that will help you attain a thrilling orgasm in the end. Take your time, there is no need to rush through the steps. The longer you take, the more aroused you'll become as you transition from one technique to the next.

Before you begin any of these steps, make sure to lubricate the insertable part of the shaft, the vagina opening and your labia. Do not lubricate the bunny stimulator or the ears. Use water based lubricant only since it is the safest to use with silicone sex toy materials. (Silicone lube will melt with silicone surfaces).

Technique #1 – Tickle & Tease

This is the best way to “get your engine revved up”, so to speak. The goal here is to ignite your body's sexual response by withholding strong contact with the vibrating bunny. You are purposely teasing yourself with the jack rabbit vibrator, the result will be your vagina relaxes, preparing for (and craving) penetration.

You are not pressing the ears into the clitoris, you are letting them lap lightly at the clitoral hood. It will actually create a tickling feel and before very long, you'll have the urge to push the shaft in further to get more direct contact (read: stronger stimulation). Resist that urge! We're purposefully leaving the bunny at a distance so that your body feels the tease.

Vibrator has beads? They will just barely rub the vagina opening, further emphasizing the teasing sensation. You can also thrust the toy in and out to remove contact with the clit, then gently push it back in again and simulate the thrusting in and out motion of sexual intercourse.

You may turn up the motor to its most powerful setting too, it will literally create a more forceful tickling feeling on your clitoris. Sometimes the tickle is too intense however, so most women leave the power at the middle setting during warm-up.

Technique #2 – Bunny Ear Hug

With your hand, push apart the ears and lay one ear on each side of your clitoris. Push the shaft inside further until your clitoris is squeezed between the 2 ears. The further in you insert the dildo, the stronger the contact with be on the clitoris.

This step requires specific maneuvering with your spare hand in order to position the clitoris properly in its spot. It's not just going to happen on its own when you insert the toy into your body. To increase contact, position each ear inside the clitoral hood and let the clit “pop” out between the ears.

If the rabbit stimulator cannot reach the spot on its own (sometimes they naturally lean back too far and this position is difficult to set), use the index finger on your other hand and press the stimulator forwards to make firm, direct contact.

As you can see in my photo demonstration, this is what I have to do in order to create this positioning. A secret advantage of pushing it with your finger? The vibration feels far more powerful!

Now we've satisfied the urge for stronger, more powerful stimulation that we've been craving in step #1. Unlike the first step however, you cannot thrust the toy in & out. It needs to stay in place otherwise you'll need to re-set the clit between the ears again.

Keep the rabbit vibrator still! Do not jiggle, move or thrust it. Now is the time to turn up the motor to full speed if you haven't already.

Technique #3 – Into the Clitoral Cave

Many women will reach an orgasm with this technique. This has the most powerful clitoral stimulation of all steps. If I'm in a hurry and only have limited time for a “quickie with myself”, this is the only step I will use to get the job done quickly.

This requires special maneuvering, the rabbit ears will not reach this position on their own with simple insertion. With one hand, lift up the clitoral hood.

With the other hand, pinch the ears closed and nestle them inside the clitoral hood. You'll likely need to lift the hood and “tent” it over the ears. The ears should remain together, but the clit will still sneak into the tiny gap at the top.

Keep the motor off when positioning for this technique. Why? When the motor is running, the ears vibrate and move, so they will jiggle out of the hood. Once the ears are under pressure in their place, then activate the motor and the pressure of the tented hood will keep them in place.

Turn up the motor to its highest setting. You can also press down on the clitoris with an index finger to increase arousal. This is where purchasing the best clit stimulator will have an advantage - the motor will be more powerful compared to one that's cheaply made.

I must caution you however, the vibration is EXTRA intense! Many women can't handle it this high, but if you love to orgasm with powerful bullet vibrators, this step will do the trick for you. It will feel even better then just having a bullet in hand because you have vaginal stimulation and massage at the same time.

Technique #4 – Bunny Head Butt

Finally, we have the deeper penetration you've been craving! Once the clit is fully satisfied, the vagina feels relaxed, the tissue is lose and welcoming to the sensation of thrusting motion and the massaging, spinning beads feel amazing. A rotating rabbit sex toy will offer the greatest feeling of all time right about now too!

Unlike the previous 2 techniques, this one does not require special maneuvering of placement of body parts. Lubricate the rabbit dildo, insert it far and the stimulator will naturally rest in this position as demonstrated in the photo here.

In the beginning, I talked about how the rabbit is ergonomically curved to fit with a woman's body, and you can clearly see it demonstrated here.

The rabbit head sits perpendicular to the clitoris. The tiny pointed nose pokes at the base of the clit. The ears sit together and reach way up the pubis. In comparison with the previous techniques, this position offers the most external vibration. The shaft is also deeper so the filling sensation is highly erotic too.

You can thrust the toy in & out, jiggle it around, experiment with the various functions and vibrating patterns. The full on vibration and deep head rotation is a complete sexual experience for women.

The beaded portion of the shaft will be fully enclosed inside the vagina massaging a vast width inside your body. To increase external vibration, use your thumb or finger to press the bunny vibrator more firmly against your body.

Technique #5 – Clit Vibrator Tango

This final step is not required to orgasm – chances are you've done so already, but if you want to experience multiple orgasms, this step is a must-do to keep the pleasure rolling. The shaft will be inserted as far as it can go, the rabbit shape pushed firmly against you, maximizing full on body contact. Pleasure, amplified!

If you are a petite woman or have a shallow vagina, make note of the “insertable” measurement on each ladies sex toy product page. All shafts have different lengths, some as small as 4 inches, some as large as 6 inches. In order to complete this technique, you'll need to insert the complete insertable length of the jack rabbit vibrator.

In the photo, you can see my index finger pressing on the back of the bunny's body. The rabbit sex toy is designed to touch the clitoris with either the ears or the head, not the belly as I demonstrate in this technique. It will likely need a helping finger in order for the belly to make contact with your pubis.

The clitoris will be squeezed between the shaft and the belly. If you examine the external stimulator, you'll notice the motor is always located in the bunny's body. Your clitoris will have direct contact with the bunny in this position and it will feel “lower intensity” compared to the higher pitch tingle that you feel when the ears are flapping against you.

The nose presses above the clitoris and the ears tickle almost at your pubic hair line. This is full on contact stimulating all erogenous zones plus the spinning beads are deeper inside the vagina to massage the tissue. One side note however, if you have a G spot rabbit dildo, insertion at this stage will be too far to reach the G spot.

How to Use a Vibrator During Sex

Married couples often use a vibrator during sex to spice up the sex life. It adds an interactive way for the partners to fully engage in each other's bodies. There are a few types of vibrator sex toys that are better used during sex than others, so below I've summarized the best vibrators to use.

In summary, the best vibrators to use with your lover during penetrative sex and foreplay include bullet vibrators, wand massagers and vibrating cock rings.

Before your new toy arrives, check out the detailed steps for your specific type of toy. Different vibrators exists and not all have the same techniques! Scroll through the database here and continue on to the specific step by step instructions and users manual for different types of vibrators for women.

How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

Bullet vibrators are the best sex toy to spice up the sex life. Bullet vibrators can be used for anal stimulation along with clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex. I published the full tutorial on how to use a bullet vibrator here with more detail and information if you are thinking of trying a bullet vibrator for the first time.

1. Hold the bullet vibrator directly over top of the clitoris.
2. Push the tip under the clitoral hood.
3. Poke the tip into the vagina entry.
4. Repeat steps 1 – 3 as sexual arousal increases.
5. Circle the perineum.
6. Hold the bullet vibrator on the clitoris during sexual intercourse.

Wand Vibrators

Wand vibrators are similar to bullet vibrators where they are made for external stimulation, but can be inserted shallow into the vagina or rubbed in a circle around the vaginal opening. Wand massager vibrators are very popular for foreplay and a common first timers sex toy due to their discreet non-phallic appearance.

When learning how to use a vibrator, you'll see recommendation for different kinds of lube, but in the case if a palm vibrator or wand vibrator, I suggest skipping lube altogether. If the clit is too slippery, the vibrator head will slide off and miss the pleasure point.

Even though with most vibrators you should use water based lube, in the case of wand vibrators they should be left dry so they can "stick to the clit".

How to Use a G Spot Vibrator

In order to properly enjoy G spot vibrators, you'll need to know how to find the G Spot in the first place. After that, you can follow my video demo and tutorial on using a G Spot vibrator for what will be probably one of the most enjoyable orgasms you've ever had.

1. Measure about 3 inches down the G Spot vibrator shaft and mark the location with your finger.
2. Insert it into the vagina with the curved end facing your belly button until the 3 inch mark on the shaft.
3. Turn on the motor and push the G spot vibrator forward so that it makes direct contact with the G Spot.
4. For maximum G Spot pleasure, leave the toy stationary inside the vagina, or jiggle it in a circular motion but do not thrust it in and out as you would with a dildo.

You can use either water based lube or silicone based lube with G Spot vibrator toys, but if the curved vibrator is really skinny you may not need any at all. Try a G Spot stimulation cream which increases blood flow to the pleasure point and makes it feel more sensitive When you power up the motor, you'll feel the heightened intensity.

Vibrating Cock Rings

Vibrating cock rings are a small ring vibrator that fits on the base of an erect penis. They can also be used on a vibrator to add more sensations. Check out my tutorial on using a vibrating cock ring for the full video demo and step by step instructions.

To spice up oral sex, any good sex toy shop will have a fun selection of vibrating cock rings and flavored lubes. The vibrating cock ring is designed to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in the clitoris and labia during sex. The deeper you go, the more stimulation you'll feel!

These sex toys are often stretchy to fit any size penis. Any certified sex therapist will recommend trying a vibrating sex ring to spice up the sex life. It is an easy hands-free sex toy sometimes with a rabbit vibe to make it look friendly and fun.

Anal Play?

Any good vibrator can be used as vibrating anal toys so feel free to explore your own body. Guys buy vibrators for prostate stimulation and women enjoy anal play as these other toys with rumbly vibrations and multiple intensity settings make anal play really exciting.

No insertion required, you can always rub the tip of your vibrator around the anus to tickle and tease. Tickle the inner thighs, rub it over the inner labia, external stimulation feels just as good as internal stimulation!

For your sexual health, never use vibrating anal toys in the vagina. Even though the materials and sex toys are completely body safe, it is never safe to switch holes. Buy a vibrator for the vaginal canal and keep butt toys separate for anal play.

Sex Toys and Your Pleasure

Assuming you are using a similar style as demonstrated in my “how to use a rabbit vibrator” video above, your orgasm will be simply amazing. Why?

First of all, clitoral vibration produces more powerful orgasms than any other kind of sexual stimulation. That's why couples often use a bullet vibrator during sex because it brings her to a more powerful climax.

Essentially, the external rabbit IS a bullet vibrator but fashioned with ears that radiate a higher pitch tingle from the motor below, and a head that presses against the clit. The curvature of the ears stimulate the hood too so you have complete clitoral contact. It's like a powerful vibrating egg on steroids.

But that's not all – the spinning beads DO offer a nice internal massage, but we have to investigate further to discover why they're even there in the first place. What does a vibrator feel like? Read on for everything you've wanted to know!

Intensity Settings and your Orgasm

When a woman has an orgasm, her vagina muscles pulse and convulse, almost like an involuntary spasm. This is nature's clever design - these vaginal contractions help pull semen deeper into the vagina to help increase chances of egg fertilization.

Learn about more interesting and things that happen during the female orgasm. It's actually quite astounding how nature has created such a surge of sexual pleasure in order to encourage us to reproduce!

Knowing about these muscle contractions, you can deduce why the rabbit dildo is such a powerful tool for female sexual satisfaction. The spinning beads provide something for the convulsing muscles to clench around during the throes of pleasure. The result: insane, intense pleasure.

Mayla's Secret Tip on How to Use a Vibrator

The typical rabbit sex toy has 3 things going on at once:

1. Clitoral vibration
2. Spinning beads
3. Rotating head

Now if you consider the energy source, they are operated by a compartment containing either AA or AAA batteries. Power of all 3 of these functions is drawn by the batteries equally. By turning down one (or more) of the motors, the remaining energy gets directed towards the other motor.

USB rechargeable rabbit vibrators are a new trend in sex toy shops everywhere, but it;s important to note the energy distribution is similar to a battery operated sex toy. The best part? Rechargeable motors are typically much more powerful compared to battery operated, but that's not a rule, there are some exceptions.

Focus on Clitoral Stimulation

For example, if you like the clitoral vibration better than the internal rotation, then turn down the rotating motor and turn up the clitoral motor. The additional energy taken from the other functions will go towards the function you like, making it far stronger than with all motors running equally. My best tip on how to use a rabbit dildo is to harness that boost of energy by turning off the other motors and leave only 1 motor running. It will be extra powerful!

Internal Stimulation with a Beaded Vibrator

There are 2 configurations for a vibrator toy with a beaded shaft:

1. Metal beads rotate on a central fixed axis positioned in the middle of the shaft. Most styles with multi speed options will also have a button allowing the user to control the speed of the rotating axis. This provides an evenly distributed massaging sensation inside the vagina as the beads rotate inside the shaft, pushing on the silicone casing in which they are contained.
2. Loose plastic beads that fill the open cavity inside the shaft. As the shaft gyrates, the motor stirs the beads around crating an irregular crunching motion which stimulates the vagina. This style normally sticks out further from the shaft compared to the aforementioned type, so the sensation feels different.

Comparing Vaginal & Clit Vibrators

So which of these 2 options feels better? Like most types of womens vibrators, they cannot be compared, they are simply different. The first style that has rotating beads on an axis is more popular and more common than the loose beaded style, but that does not mean the second is inferior. I would guess the first type is more popular simply since it looks nicer, and after all when a person is buying something online, looks are everything!

The One (and Only) Rabbit Vibrator Con

You just spent a good chunk of time reading about how amazing these stunning toys really are. There is 1 downside to all of this glory and amazement however. The more motors and functions there are, the louder it will be. High end and expensive styles do have better sound deadening than cheap rabbit vibrators, but in the end, they all make noise.

The rabbit vibrator with rotating beads and head all make noise. The axis turning creates a mechanical low end “whirring” sound, especially when operating on full power mode. I do have to mention one thing however – when the shaft is inside the body, the body naturally muffles some of the sound so it won't be as loud while deep inside the body. As long as your chosen model is waterproof, you can use it in the shower to mask all sound.

Shopping for the Right Vibrator Online

There are so many different features it's tough to select which one you'll like best. Hopefully this guide clarified things enough to shop confidently online for a new vibrating dildo that you'll really love. If you have additional questions about any of my content on how to use a vibrator or demo videos and tutorials, please send me an email and I'd be happy to help you out.

Finding the right vibrator for your needs is important, and just as no two women are created alike, nether are rabbit sex toys. It takes some sleuthing to discover the type you'll love most. Now that you've read my how to use a rabbit vibrator tutorial, you're ready to shop!

Regardless if you're shopping for a large rabbit vibrator or prefer to try a small bullet or egg vibrator instead, if you are wanting a cheap rabbit vibrator or have a higher budget for one with more features, we have an even line of choices that fulfill all of these desires. Happy sex toy shopping!

After Using a Vibrator: Cleaning & Care

Sex toy cleaner is super important for any internal vibrator. These antibacterial sprays are gentle on porous materials and of course will preserve the integrity of the body safe materials and your favorite silicone toy too.

Cleaning isn't that complicated, any good sex educator will advise you to keep anal toys, oral sex toys and palm vibrators stored separately and never used in adjoining holes.