How to Use Sex Toys: Complete Tutorial for Beginners

Last Updated on September 4, 2024

Sex toys are an enormously popular way to increase sexual pleasure and make orgasms feel stronger and more enjoyable. Sex toys are useful during foreplay, partnered sex and solo masturbation. You'll reap maximum benefits when adult toys are used properly – and today you'll learn just how to do that!

When we first think about how to use sex toys, the answer seems self-explanatory. However, once you've purchased sex toys online and hop into bed with them for the first time, it's totally natural to wonder if there is a certain tutorial to follow that would make your experience more enjoyable.... and yes, there is!

I'm here to fill you in with a plethora of Sexpert tips, techniques and advice on the best ways to use sex toys for the ultimate in pleasure. You'll find complete and comprehensive anal toy instructions, vibrator demos and dildo tutorials.

Everyone benefits from the same pleasure too. Men, women and couples share the joys of sex toys both internally and externally across all erogenous zones on the body. Regardless of your gender or sexual expression, there is a dildo for sale with your name on it!

Couples use sex toys to explore sexual fantasies and re-kindle passion in a long-term relationship or marriage. A newly refreshed sex life is a great way to connect on a deeper more intimate level. We call it “spice up the sex life” for good reason – that's actually what it feels like!

Each topic has a link to its respective sex toy tutorial because some of these go into intimate detail and have several methods to try. Make sure to check out the adult toy guides of each category for video demonstrations and step by step instructions.

Sex Toy Demonstration Videos

Sex toy videos are an important tool for customers shopping at an online adult toy shop for the first time. Every sex toy we sell has a video demo so you can see how firm or soft it is, watch its vibrating modes and/or functions in action, and get an impression of its actual size.

Sex toy demonstrations give you an idea of how a sex toy works and what it will feel like. It is an essential tool for partners who want to enjoy dildos or vibrators together during foreplay. My tutorials always feature a sex toy demo so you know what to expect and the proper way to use each one.

How to Use a Dildo

How to use a dildo? The secret to enjoying sex with a dildo is a rhythmic motion that imitates sexual intercourse. Start slow, use lots of lube and increase speed of motion as sexual arousal increases and orgasm approaches.

Lubricate the vagina and spread the labia apart before inserting the dildo head. Even with a small beginners dildo, it's important to ease it into the body gradually to prevent your skin from pulling due to friction and distribute the lube and making it slippery from end to end

Looking for Sexpert advice on how to use a sex toy for maximum pleasure? “Jiggle” the dildo and stimulate the clitoris at the same time to enhance pleasure. Tilt the shaft towards tour belly button in order to stimulate the G-spot to produce an internal based orgasm.

Dildo Instructions

1. Lubricate the dildo and around your vagina entry.
2. Spread your labia open with your fingers.
3. Insert the dildo and move it back and forth to spread lube so there is no friction.
4. Stimulate your clitoris with your finger or a bullet vibrator while using the dildo.
5. As sexual arousal increases, move the dildo faster & faster in a rhythmic motion.
6. Rub your clit harder as orgasm approaches, and tilt the dildo forward for G-spot stimulation.

How to Use a Vibrator

How to use a vibrator? Apply lube to the top 2 or 3 inches of the vibrator and your vagina to reduce friction upon initial insertion. External vibrators like bullet vibes and clit stimulators do not need lube, and in fact, these are better used dry.

Explore the various vibrating modes of your vibrator. Most modern sex toys for women have thumping, escalating and pulsating modes that you can use to time the crest of your climax with the intensity of the settings.

The vibrator sex toy is the epitome of personal pleasure. Clit stimulation and internal stimulation combine to create a fabulous orgasm. Lay back and let your mind slip away into a preferred erotic fantasy. All rules are off, it's just you and your lovely vibrator taking you to cloud nine.

Move your vibrator in a “stirring” motion once fully inserted. This adds pressure inside the vagina and increases the massaging sensation that makes a climax feel oh-so wonderful. This is why vibrators are also known as “personal massagers”!

Vibrator Instructions

1. Lubricate the vibrator and around your vagina entry.
2. Spread your labia open with your fingers.
3. Insert the vibrator and move it back and forth to spread lube so there is no friction.
4. Activate the motor and select the lowest speed setting.
5. As sexual arousal increases, increase speed or choose a more intense vibrating mode.
6. If your vibrator does not have a clitoral stimulator, rub your clit with your fingers.

How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator

How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator? This is a complex female sex toy with various methods that you can try. In this guide, I highlight 5 different ways to use a rabbit vibrator along with video demos on each one. A must-read for all curious beginners!

In summary, the combination of internal stimulation and external stimulation create what's known as a blended orgasm. This is the most pleasurable type of orgasm and a coveted experience among sex toy users everywhere, hence the popularity of the rabbit sex toy.

You can lay the rabbit ears directly over the clit to “tickle” it, or spread the rabbit ears and place one on each side to “hug” it. Try both ways – they feel quite different but each are sexually pleasing in their own right.

Rabbit Vibrator Instructions

1. Lubricate the dildo shaft, but do not lubricate the external bunny vibrator.
2. Insert the vibrator and place the bunny ears in one of the aforementioned positions.
3. Activate the motor(s) to your preferred speed setting.
4. Do not move it around. (To properly use this sex toy, it should be left in place).
5. Throttle the various vibration modes to rhythmically increase intensity as your orgasm begins.

How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

How to Use A Bullet Vibrator? There are several different techniques that feel amazing such as lifting the clitoral hood and pushing the bullet underneath for direct forceful contact and spreading the labia and laying it over the vagina entrance (what a fabulous tease!)

The most important adult toy for female sexual pleasure, the bullet vibe is capable of producing an orgasm in seconds. If you're here to learn how to use sex toys, this is THE sex toy tutorial to familiarize yourself with. Be sure to watch the video demos too.

Tone down the strength and use it with your partner to warm up the body by tucking the egg vibrator between the labia majora and letting the buzz spread throughput the pubis. Even though some bullets are small, others wide and large, the techniques are all similar. Oh and also try it on the nipples too!

Bullet Vibrator Instructions

1. Place the tip of the bullet vibrator directly over the clitoris.
2. Turn on the motor to the lowest speed setting.
3. Rub the bullet in a circular motion over the clit.
4. Spread the hood with your fingers and poke the bullet at angle angle so it “scoops” inside the hood.
5. As arousal increases, select a more intense speed or thumping mode.
6. Lay the bullet between the labia, tease the vaginal entry and tickle the perianal region.

How to Use a Clit Sucker

How to Use a Clit Sucker? Clit pumps and suckers are used during foreplay to help get the body in the mood for sex by increasing blood flow to the clitoris which heightens sensation and relaxes the vagina.

The secret is to leave the clit sucker stationary in place. If you lift up the clitoral hood and expose the clit, the direct hypersonic pulses or vacuum suction will provide intense and direct stimulation. It is a popular way for women to encourage natural vaginal lubrication and increase libido for those with a low sex drive.

Clit pump sex toys are intensely powerful, the vacuum suction or air pressure technology is amazing. Vibrating clit sucking toys are a great tool for intimate arousal to combat vaginal dryness and are one of the most exotic personal pleasure toys a lady can have.

Clit sucking vibrators are used for solo masturbation, and similar to the rabbit sex toy demo, they produce blended orgasms from simultaneous internal and external stimulation. This tutorial will be the same as the rabbit (view previous guide above).

Clit Sucker Instructions

1. Spread a few drops of lube around the opening of the sucker.
2. Lift up the clitoral hood and place the opening directly on your erogenous zone.
3. Activate the air pressure motor, vibrating motor, or squeeze the hand bulb.
4. Hold the clit sucker in place, do not move it. The harder you press the more intense it will feel.

How to Use Finger Sex Toys

How to Use a Finger Vibrator? Finger play is an exciting way to boost sexual arousal and make penetrative sex more enjoyable. These are one of the most popular types of sex toys for couples as it encourages interactive play and erotic experimentation.

Finger sex toys are tiny personal massagers are useful for incorporating a more playful attitude in the bedroom. In the sex toy tutorial guide, I demonstrate several options that rely on using both fingers and thumb to massage all the erogenous zones including clitoris, vagina, perineum, anus and nipples.

It's literally a wholesome sexual experience and a fun way to explore each others bodies. Couples also use the finger sex toy tutorial for nipple play, so add on a blindfold to your purchase and make your erotic night one to remember! Experiment outside of the box and try something new.

Finger Sex Toy Instructions

1. Put the vibrator on your index finger and rub your partners clitoris.
2. Rub between the labia and circle the vagina entry.
3. Keep moving downward press the perineum and hold your finger in place for several seconds.
4. Lightly touch the anus (but do not insert your finger)
5. Touch the nipples too, or stimulate other erogenous zones during sex toy play.

How to Use Anal Beads

How to Use Anal Beads? This sex toy manual covers tips and advice on ways to make anal toy play cleaner, safer and more enjoyable. Learn techniques on temperature play, commonly used with butt plugs but my Sexpert tip is that it feels just as good with beads too!

The "thumping" sensation of anal beads being pulled at the onset of orgasm is a secret tip for those in the know. Well, actually that's not entirely true. Anal beads have been around for centuries, so literally millions of people have discovered the joy of shoving stringed balls in the butt.

Traditionally, anal beads are used to enhance the muscle clenching pleasure of an orgasm, hence the beaded form that pulls out with staggering contrast between bead and string from the anus just as the climax begins.

Anal Bead Instructions

1. Lubricate each bead and push them in one at a time into the anus with your index finger.
2. For the single strand style of anal beads: Hold the middle of the strand and shove it in with a few firm pushes.
3. Enjoy partnered sex, playing with your dildo or mutual masturbation while leaving the beads in place where they are.
4. As you feel your orgasm approaching, grab the retrieval ring with your hand (or your partner can do this for you).
5. At the onset of orgasm, pull the beads out in a smooth, consistent motion.

How to Use a Cock Ring

How to use a cock ring? Check out the complete penis ring tutorial with 12 types of cock rings, 5 ways to use these male sex toys, new ideas and suggestions you may not have considered before to improve sex & masturbation.

One of the most common myths is that mens penis rings fit too tight and are uncomfortable to wear. While true that some cock rings constrict tightly to maintain an erection for men with erectile dysfunction, most are stretchy enough to fit all men's penis sizes. The sex toy video on each product page shows how stretchy (or not) each cock ring is.

The slight squeeze feels great, it lifts up his scrotum making the package look bigger and having loop around the testicles is a powerful sexual enhancer for him. It makes ejaculations feel stronger. Want a secret pleasure tip? I suggest men wear a penis ring during solo masturbation, they're not just for sex!

Cock Ring Instructions

1. Lubricate the interior of the ring and your dick, all the way to the base of the shaft.
2. If there are dual rings attached together, put the shaft band on first, then the scrotum band second.
3. If you have a vibrating cock ring, point the vibrator upwards to stimulate your partners clitoris, or point it down for perianal stimulation.
4. If you have multiple rings in a pack, put the widest on first, then follow with the subsequent sizes. (The rings can be stacked for maximum erection control.)
5. The adjustable Lasso cock ring can be worn around the penis only, or both the dick and balls at the same time. Slide the bead or clasp to adjust to your desired fit.

How to Use a Penis Sleeve

How to Use a Penis Sleeve? Cock sleeves stretch to fit any size, but a little drop of lube inside will help it to slide on (with a helping hand as shown in the video demonstration) – but be careful not to add to much lube or the sleeve can fall off. Keep it mostly dry and it will stay on during sex.

A popular type of adult toy for lovers looking enhance sexual intercourse, penis sleeves are sex toys for couples that make ordinary sex feel different. With cock extenders & sleeves, both partners will experience a soft, unique feeling padding during intercourse.

How to use a sex toy sleeve to make the dick longer? Penis extensions can sometimes develop and uncomfortable air pocket inside when you put it on. If you pinch the space just below the filled tip with your fingers, it will prevent the air pocket from forming which helps the interior profile of the sleeve comfortably follow the contours of your erection.

Not all penis sleeves are designed to make the dick bigger or longer, they are also for erotic enhancement in the bedroom and some are for adding girth only. Check the filters in rthe menu to see how much girth or length a particular product will add.

Penis Sleeve Instructions

1. Apply a thin layer of lube inside the sleeve and over the head of your penis.
2. Stretch the opening slightly and roll it outwards with your fingers and slide it over your dick.
3. Guide the sleeve further down to the base of your erection by using both hands.
4. If there is a ball strap, place it around your testicles now.
5. Thoroughly lubricate the exterior of the sleeve with water based lube before having sex.

More Ways to Use Adult Toys

Beginners should have a peek at my other adult toy guides and sex toy demonstrations below. If you want to know how to use sex toys of all types, these essential tips and techniques come from decades of coaching men, women and couples on ways to spice up the sex life and introduce sex toys into the relationship to experience better pleasure.

• How to Use Anal Toys - Anal play is an effective way to increase sexual pleasure. Discover Sexpert tips & techniques on how to use anal toys, butt plugs, anal beads and more.
• How to Use Male Stroker Sex Toys - Automatic strokers & blowjob machines are a trendy yet complex sex toy for men. This guide explains the different types of male masturbators and steps for using each one.
• How do Strap Ons Work? - How to use a strap on, how they work and a sizing guide on how to pick one that will fit your body type. A shopping guide on how to find the best strap on harness compatible dildo for you and your lover.
• How to Use a Strapless Strap On - The kinkiest sex toy for women, the strapless dildo required strong Kegel muscles to hold in place. Learn instructions on how to use this adult toy for intimate and romantic sex in a fun, kinky and playful way.
• How to Hit the G Spot - G spot stimulation is not just for women, men have the same powerful erogenous zone too known as the P-spot. Learn what is a G Spot, how to find it and the best ways to make your sex life shine. Learn the basics of G-spot foreplay and how to make a girl squirt with sex toys.
• How to Use a G Spot Vibrator - There are 12 steps required to have an orgasm with a G spot stimulator, it's like a precise recipe with explosive results! Also discover our 10 top rated and best G Spot toys for women, my own personal top recommendations.
• How to Use a Hollow Strap on - Answers to frequently asked questions and instructions on how to use a hollow strap on dildo for men with ED. Strap ons are one of the most misunderstood types of sex toys for couples.
• How to Use the Butterfly Vibrator - The lesser known butterfly lives in the shadow of its more popular rabbit counterpart. We'll explore exactly why the butterfly just happens to have a superb design for sexual pleasure.
• How to Use Kegel Balls - Kegel weights, trainers & balls have been used by females for centuries to help with incontinence after childbirth, but also perfect for hands free sexual arousal when you're feeling frisky.
• How to Use a Vibrating Cock Ring - Vibrator cock rings are little known sex accessory for couples, but my goal as a sex educator is to spread the word about these cheap, hands free devices with the hopes that one day you'll try one too. It's the perfect couples toy!
• How to Use a Pocket Pussy - The pocket pussy masturbator is the most popular of all sex toys for men, yet still so taboo. If men only knew how many pocket pussies we sell, they wouldn't feel so shamed of buying one of their own. I demonstrate a basic pocket pussy in this tutorial.

What Type of Lube Should I Use with Sex Toys?

I always suggest using water-based lube with sex toys. Why? Silicone lube will blend and melt with silicone sex toys. This is a slow process and takes days, but repeated exposure will degrade the surface of your toy eventually. With water-based lube, this is never a concern no matter what material it's made of.

Another reason I recommend water-based lubricants is that it's easier to wash off your toy, and you don't need to shower after to wash it off your body either. Water based lube will evaporate eventually, but silicone needs needs to be washed off with soap. Find your favorite lube here!

If you love silicone-based lube, sure go ahead and use it - just make sure that your sex toy does not contain any silicone. Silicone has tough bonds and needs lots of soapy suds to break the bonds to clean it off completely whereas water-based lube washes off easily when it comes time to clean your sex toy.

How to Clean Sex Toys

As for cleaning sex toys, any antibacterial hand soap or sex toy cleaner spray works perfectly. Toys must be cleaned after every use and stored separate from each other. I recommend storing sex toys in the original containers they came in. Free storage!

To clean, rinse under tap water, spray the entire surface with sex toy spray (or apply soap), and wipe the soap around with your hands then rinse well. Just make sure that the toy is completely dry and remove batteries before storing.

Where to Buy Sex Toys

Now that you've learned how to use sex toys and know how we measure every sex toy, you're ready to pick your new favorite intimate bedroom accessory! So now the question arises where to buy sex toys? In each article you can view my personal listing of “10 best sex toys” and have confidence knowing that you've selected a good one.

Why buy sex toys with us? As you can see from the informational content, we have more experience & expertise than anyone else and know what works, and what does not. We have a warranty to back up every purchase and have all the accessories needed to properly clean & store your new purchase to keep it in tip-top shape for future kinky encounters anytime you're feeling frisky.