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How to Use a Sex Doll: Tips & Advice to Have Sex with a Doll

How to Use a Sex Doll: Tips & Advice to Have Sex with a Doll

Sex dolls are no longer inflatable oddities with weirdly gaping mouths. Now, they are examples of engineering and artistry.

Made with silicone or TPE for an ultra-realistic feel, metal skeletal frames, and realistic features, these dolls are made to provide lifelike experiences. Some are even powered with AI technology.

If you buy a sex doll, you could spend up to 10K. The last thing you want is to spend that kind of money only to have a lackluster experience, or worse, accidentally damage your doll. 

No worries! We’ve created a guide to help you get the most out of your realistic sex doll. Keep reading for all the information you ever wanted.

Buying a Sex Doll For Yourself

When it’s time to buy your sex doll, you have a few decisions to make:

  • Gender
  • Size
  • Body Type
  • Skin Tone
  • Facial Features
  • Hair Color

Now for some things you may not have considered. Do you want your sex doll to have feet that allow it to stand up or not? Should the vagina be built in or removable? The former is more realistic, but the latter is much easier for cleaning.

What about TPE vs. silicone? A TPE sex doll will feel more realistic, but be more prone to stains. Silicone dolls are easier to clean, and sometimes less expensive.

Items to Purchase Before Using a Sex Doll

Before you plan any purchases, see what your doll comes with. They may arrive with a small repair kit, cleaning solution, and custom lube. Chances are, you’ll get an outfit for your doll as well. That’s great.

If not, you’ll need to purchase lube at the very least. You should also have stuff on hand for cleaning. But, we’ll address that below. Here are some extras you might want to have on hand for fun:

  • Additional clothing and jewelry
  • Light powder based makeup
  • Soft washcloth and baby shampoo for cleaning

Should you purchase sex toys for your doll? That depends on your fantasies, and the doll you purchase. If your doll responds to sexual stimulation, a vibrator could be an amazing addition.

Don’t forget cuffs or a paddle if you want to engage in BDSM play. Just remember that your doll isn’t unbreakable. His or her skin and joints can become damaged if you play too rough.

Sex doll types
All shapes, sizes & colors to fulfill your ideal fantasy.

Unboxing And Assembling Your Sex Doll

Most companies take great care to ensure that your package arrives looking quite discrete. You’ll probably have to do some assembly. Don’t worry. It’s quick and painless.

The head will probably be separate from the torso. That’s for safe shipping. It attaches quite easily. There will likely be a wig in the box. Be sure to look for a vaginal/anal flush kit, cleaning supplies, lubes, and any extras you may have ordered.

How to Have Sex With a Sex Doll

Now for the main event. Your doll is up and ready to go. How do you get started? We’ll go through the various acts you can perform.

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Vaginal Sex With Your Doll

First, think about three things. What position would you like to try? How much lube do you need? Where are you going to finish?

If your sex doll has movable parts, just like a real person you can try any standard sex position. Missionary, doggy style, etc. are all available to you.

Of course, if you want to try certain positions, such as having the doll on top or up against the wall, you will be doing most of the ‘heavy lifting’. The same is true if you have a doll with a penis, and want it to penetrate you.

Oral Sex With Your Doll

Good news men! You can enjoy realistic oral sex with your doll. Engineers have cracked the code to create stunningly realistic oral sex experiences via sex dolls. You will need a bit of lube.

Unfortunately, women who wish to receive oral from their dolls aren’t quite as lucky. Most dolls don’t have that option. However, you can masturbate by straddling your doll. Both men and women can also simulate giving oral sex to their dolls. This definitely adds to the fantasy.

Anal Sex With Your Doll

If your doll is made for anal sex, enjoy! But, go slowly too. Use plenty of the right lube. Things will be tighter, and entry might be a challenge.

Remember, the idea is to be as realistic as possible. The only thing missing will be those sexy whimpers giving away to moans of pleasure.

Realistic Sex Doll
Ultra Realistic Sex Doll

Other Things to do With Your Doll

Some customers will simply have sex with their doll, clean it up, and put it into storage for next time. Others are into creating an entire experience.

You can put different wigs and outfits on your doll, even create entire scenarios to act out. There are even people who keep their dolls out, and treat them like companions.

Less frequently, people purchase dolls for entirely non-sexual purposes. They may use them for art projects or filmmaking. It’s also fairly common to use these dolls to encourage social distancing.

Sex Doll Care And Cleaning

Care for your doll, and they will last for years. Each time you finish making love to your doll, you must clean him or her, sex toy cleaner spray makes it easy. Do this regardless, but especially if you choose to ejaculate inside your doll.

Bodily fluids can stain and damage. So can lubricant, and even the oils from your sweat. Take the following steps as needed:

  • Use a vaginal irrigator and fresh water to flush any orifices you’ve used. Start with water, then use water and a mild soap. End with a final flush of water.
  • If you’ve used a removable part, take it to the sink for a thorough cleaning.
  • You can use a bottle brush to scrub any internal parts that cannot be removed.
  • Use a mild shampoo to clean your doll’s wig.
  • If your doll doesn’t have any electronics, you can take them into the shower, and clean her with a mild soap and water.
  • Use a soft cloth and very mild soap to remove any makeup. You can also try a makeup remover. Just be sure it isn’t oil or alcohol based.

When you finish, dry your doll thoroughly. Many owners will sprinkle their dolls with baby powder before putting them away.

Sex Doll Storage Options

Your doll is a multi-thousand dollar piece of art and engineering. Please don’t chuck it under the bed like a 30 dollar vibrator. You have some options to consider.

If you can afford it, please consider purchasing a case for your doll. Otherwise, you can fashion one of your own out of a large box that you line with soft material.

Be certain that material doesn’t bleed its colors or carry any smells. Finally, your doll may come with a kit that allows you to hang her in your closet.

However, you store your doll, remove her clothing first. Consider wrapping her in something, and don’t place her next to anything that might transfer a stain or odor.

Traveling With Your Sex Doll

If you purchase a full-size doll, you will definitely need a carrying case for it. Then, plan to travel in ways that emphasize discretion.

After all, you will be carrying a very lifelike, anatomically correct replica of a human being, and your case could be subject to opening or x-ray inspection.

There’s also the matter of size. A sixty pound doll will feel like nothing at home. Not so much walking through an airport.

Of course, you do have a few options. Many sex doll makers produce petite sex dolls. You can also purchase torsos, breasts, legs, and ultra realistic male masturbators. This allows you to bring along only the part you will ‘use’.

Sex Doll Repair

Even if you take great care, your doll might become damaged. This is usually in the form of:

  • Cuts or tears to the skin
  • Dislocated or separated joints
  • Problematic stains or odors

Sex doll breaks can generally be defined as structural or cosmetic. Your choices are to repair the doll yourself, send it in for repair, dispose of the doll, or simply live with the damage. If you can repair your doll yourself that’s the best option. In fact, your doll may come with a repair kit. 

If you need to use another option, contact the company from which you bought the doll. They will be able to tell you if the repair is possible, and how much it will cost. They may have you send the doll to them, or they could send you a replacement part. Obviously, the damage will need to be significant for you to simply throw the doll away.

What about using the doll even with a break or flaw? Be careful about this. If you continue using a doll, and the damage worsens, you could void any warranties. An easy fix could become something that makes your doll unusable. On the other hand, a minor nick that won’t be made worse through sex isn’t a big deal.

It’s important that you thoroughly inspect your doll after each use. Catch damage in time, and fixing it is often quick and easy.



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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

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